Kibbud Av Vaem for Adult Children
The halakhot of kibbud Av Vaem regulate relationships among parents and children when all involved are adults. These relationships have always been fraught; but the modern prevalence of divorce and awareness of abuse have added new challenges and complexities. Join Rabbi Aryeh Klapper as he explores primary Rabbinic sources and rishonim to develop clear but nuanced halakhic frameworks addressing whether kibbud is primarily about one’s internal state or external behavior; whether obedience is part of kibbud; whether parents can lose their right to kibbud; and how to handle conflicts between kibbud av vaeim and one’s own legitimate financial, social, and emotional interests.
Rabbi Aryeh Klapper is Dean of the Center for Modern Torah Leadership, which brings rigorous traditional scholarship, interdisciplinary openness, and a deeply humanist understanding of halakhah to every aspect of Jewish and public life. CMTL develops present and future Modern Orthodox leaders, male and female, through unique programs of intense Talmud Torah that catalyze intellectual creativity and educational innovation. He is a cofounder of the Boston Agunah Task Force and serves as Senior Dayan on the Boston Beit Din. Rabbi Klapper is a popular lecturer and widely published author who is consulted internationally on issues of Jewish law and whose work is cited regularly by both academic and traditional scholars.